Janine Roos is a local resident who passionately
writes short stories about different things that
inspires her and happened in her own life. She
published a book of poetry, sharing with readers
glimpses of her soul and the road she has travelled. She
also practiced Therapeutic Reflexology and various other
In her own words, "I am
trying to reach out to the world in the only way
I possibly can, that is through my words, the paint on
my canvas and to care for you with my healing touch.
Hopefully this will make a difference, if only for a
short contented while. I just want to practice all the
talents that God gave me with equal respect and live my
life to the fullest.
bonus of moments is to share it with you."
EAT PRAY LOVE
by Elizabeth Gilbert
It was yet again one of the Cape of Storms’ cold,
wet wintry nights. I was bored and flipped through the channels on
TV, not knowing what I am searching for, but my soul craved
substance. Not another movie or reality programme full of mundane
things that happen to us normal human beings anyway! Lives that are
out of tune, or without equilibrium - just empty.
In between my shuffle, I stumble across a programme of ‘Oprah’
interviewing this dynamic vibrant woman called ‘Elizabeth Gilbert.’
The wisdom of her words immediately captivated me. It was a
fascinating interview about her book, and one phrase in particular
caught my attention:
Oprah asked what she thought about soul mates...
Everybody lately uses that word so longingly; so desirably, so
yearningly, wondering if they will ever find their true soul mate.
And then this wise woman responded:
“Don't search for it because the intertwined soul is
I quote from her book page 157 a conversation between Richard and
“People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what
everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who
shows you everything that’s holding you back, the person who brings
you to your own attention so you can change your life. A true soul
mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because
they tear down your walls and smack you awake, but to live with a
soul mate? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life
just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then they
leave. And thank God for it.”
This is my interpretation of her words from her conversation on TV.
You do not want to blend your soul with another person, because you
will forget, what life is all about.
The space between two people creates room for expansion,
development, growth. It allows you to be your own whole person, to
be content in your own space and to be happy to share that joy with
your other soul partner/s.
You can find a soul mate in another human or animal for a very brief
moment, a stranger or a beggar - a single encounter of thought.
It does not mean it has to be forever, or lasting, or binding.
Be careful to long for a soul mate because you give up all your
energy, to devote to that person and in the end it suffocates both
of you tragically.
Rather befriend your fellow humankind slowly, let the flowers grow
in your own garden and give some away.
Be there for your loved one but belong to yourself first.
After the truth of what she said sank deep into my consciousness, I
realized that this might change my whole life today!
So treat yourself with flowers today, eat the chocolate of your
choice, read a book or do something you always set aside to do for
others and enjoy your own soul’s freedom.
I watched this program with amazed feelings and was drawn to her
warmth and funny expressions.
I had to smile at the interviews they had with various other women
and the effect the book had on their lives. One woman even went to
all the same places trying to find the same truths.
Which, of course, defeats the object, everybody’s journey is
So first thing the next morning, I went to the nearest bookshop and
bought this book, of which only two were left. It had sold out all
over the country!
I sat in my room for three days and laughed, cried and prayed with
The most captivating verse for me was:
“I want God to play in my bloodstream the way sunlight amuses itself
So absolutely beautifully put.
Although I have never been divorced, I have a few single friends who
went through the pains and heartache. The devastating effects on
both parties, their children and the whole family as well as their
circle of friends involved in their lives.
The crying and despair of troubled souls on the bathroom floor.
And then the individual search of every human being, for true love
and the love of God.
These are my own thoughts on what I perceived through her writings,
I am quoting verses from her book that are relevant to my thoughts.
In our search for God and our faith of preference, everybody’s own
understanding where they belong in the realm of religion and what
he/she calls their God, is irrelevant as long as you believe that He
resides within you and that He loves you unconditionally, whether it
is culturally, theologically or traditionally.
“God is an experience of supreme love.”
“I believe in a magnificent God.”
These beliefs takes the reader right through the whole book.
Her yearning for a spiritual teacher and to change her life forever.
“I wanted worldly enjoyment and divine transcendence – the duel
glories of a human life.” (Page 30)
Don’t we all?
I felt her misery on the bathroom floor, and wanted to say get up
stupid woman! He/ your husband, does not even know why you are
crying, stop bleeding your heart on this cold floor, get up!
After leaving her husband she immediately finds a lover! Hmmm, some
of my very own friends did the same, more tears and more confusion.
I mean the poor bloke that is now her ex husband is trying to get
over the shock that you have left him with his thousand inadequacies
and short comings, and then you so nicely rub salt on the wound,
like he is a piece of ‘biltong.’ Nice ladies, how can you expect a
The man is crushed to the bone, his ego in tatters.
I wish she had that insight from the beginning, but the heart needs
to be comforted, and a woman wants her pain to go away…. NOW!
Then you pay the price girl.
Even if you have to go to Italy or Timbuktu, you pray and you find
that sunlight that could chase away the black dog (depression) from
And: “Never forget that once upon a time, in an unguarded moment,
you recognised yourself as a friend.” (Page 57)
Her travelling in Italy was delightful, the food and the warmth of
the Italian people.
In chapter 27, page 83, she and her friend Sophie went to the
Pizzeria da Michele and ordered pizza.
“I love my pizza so much that, in fact, I have come to the belief in
my delirium that my pizza might actually love me in return. I am
having a relationship with this pizza, almost an affair.”
Don’t you just love this?, Isn’t it like all women?, We love, we eat
and we enjoy all the good things. When we feel emotional we reach
for that “thin, doughy, strong gummy, yummy, chewy, salty pizza
We gain weight and we shed tears. So bloody what!?
Women have relationships with food, men, kids, animals and every
living thing and still, we have the sacred space for our soul mate.
And then on a dark night the question, who am I?
“First you are a child, then you are a teenager, then you are a
young married person, then you are a parent, then you are retired,
and then you are a grandparent – at every stage you know who you
are, you know what your duty is, and you know where to sit at the
You sit with the other children, or teenagers, or young parents, or
retirees. Until at last you are sitting with the ninety-year-olds in
the shade, watching over your progeny with satisfaction. Who are
you?” (Page 99.)
Virginia Woolf wrote: “Across the broad continent of a woman’s life
falls the shadow of a sword.” On one side of the sword, she said,
there lies convention and tradition and order, where ’all is
correct’. But on the other side of that sword, if you’re crazy
enough to cross it and choose a life that does not follow
convention, ’all is confusion’. Nothing follows a regular course.”
Does this mean we have to stop the eating, the lover, the travelling
the search for God,? NO, but we have to start mending our soul.
It was in India that I have felt the depth of this woman’s feelings.
The profound spiritual experience in the Ashram and could feel her
change as tangible as my own breath.
Her approach to meditation and her questions about where she fits in
into this whole universe of belief. When we feel weak before the
unknown - and ask ourselves…
“I wondered who the “me” is when I am conversing with my mind, and
who is the “mind?.” I thought about the relentless
thought-processing, soul-devouring machine that is my brain, and I
wondered how on earth I was ever going to master it.”
“And then I said to God: I’m really sorry, but this is the closest I
could get to you today.” (Page 144)
To her it was through Yoga, meditation, a spiritual teacher. And so
for everybody there is a way through which you can connect with God
to find inner peace.
The biggest truth for me in her journey is to let go of your past.
“Letting go, of course, is a scary enterprise for those of us who
believe that the world revolves only because it has a handle on the
top of it, which we personally turn, and that if we were to drop
this handle for even a moment, well- that would be the end of this
Why don’t you let it be?
“Look for God, like a man with his head on fire looks for water.”
Let go dear woman, of the painful memories of yesterday. Your
struggles, your failures and the days you felt you were not fit to
be a mother. The days when you endured hardship with no money in
your pocket and the nights when you thought…, is this all there is
to a marriage?. Staring at the all the different patterns on our
Too scared to give up your security, the home that eventually took
shape as the years went on, and the comforts. Maybe everything will
change if I…
Let it go, talk to the wall in your kitchen like Shirley Valentine,
cry on the cold hard floor of your bathroom like Liz and many
others, but know for sure you don’t have to be alone.
Let the voice of God play like a song in your mind.
“You have no idea how strong my love is!!!”
“The search for God is a reversal of the normal, mundane worldly
order. In the search for God, you revert from what attracts you and
swim toward that which is difficult. You abandon your comforting and
familiar habits with the hope (the mere hope!) that something
greater will be offered you in return for what you’ve given up.
Every religion in the world operates on the same common
understandings of what it means to be a good disciple.”
“Be a good neighbour, respect yourself and others, master your
Listen to that, we that love food so dearly! Master your cravings.
I am telling you my weight prevents me from finding the love of my
They want a woman, tall thin, slim, trim and boobed tubed !
The old ones want young girls and the young men want tuned up older
women, they must still have a flat stomach, and please no baggage or
The best are taken, the divorced flat out broke, either financially
or the heart.
But they want…
Hold on to your religion through all of this.
“I am tired of being a sceptic, I’m irritated by spiritual prudence
and I feel bored and parched by empirical debate. I don’t want to
hear it anymore. I couldn’t care less about evidence and proof and
assurances. I just want God. I want God inside me. I want God to
play in my bloodstream the way sunlight amuses itself.”
This is the most spectacular piece of writing in this book.
With that invitation in our hearts, we are open to a new life and to
explore the whole wide world.
We all have our tragic lives, our hopes and dreams, and in the end
we all are one.
When we can reach that point in our life where we feel balanced,
filled with love, devoted to our God and found the one true love
that God has set aside for you to enjoy on this earth.
Total bliss, equilibrium, whole.
So tonight I will pray and thank my God for a special moment. The
moment when His message was sent over the broad spectrum of the
universe, the TV channel.
A woman just like you and me, with a funny sense of humour, light in
her eyes and compassion in her voice.
Thank you Elizabeth Gilbert, for sharing yourself with us, the big,
the fat, the thin, the pretty and the ugly.
But in God’s eyes we are all one happy family.
We all eat, pray and love dearly.